20 Oct Surrender to the Flow
This post is about surrender to the flow. When most people hear surrender they think of military surrender. You know – the kind that means giving in or giving up. Nothing could be further from the truth!
This post is about the kind of surrender that aligns you with your purpose, your desire and therefore, the essence of flow in your life. This post is about surrendering to a high power that brings your life into optimal flow and makes your life awesome.
I’m writing to you from an airport lounge about to take a flight to Salt Lake City where I’ll attend a conference called Summit Series. I’ve been excited about it for days! As a result, I didn’t sleep that well and wound up getting to the airport at 7am, which was a little early.
When I got here, I got some bad news. The check-in staff told me that my flights was going to be two hours late. ‘Oh Man!’ I thought ‘That means waiting in the airport for hours! I hate that’
More importantly, it meant that I was going to cause problems at the other end. You see, I’d arranged to drive three other people to the Summit Series venue from the airport. Now all three of those people were going to be sitting waiting for me, too. Ouch!
All in all I was feeling terrible.
What I’m describing, then, is the resistance. It’s the state of mind where I was dwelling in the pain of the gap between what was actually happening and what I wanted to happen. The larger that gap is, the more painful it is.
Moment of Surrender
As soon as I realized that I was in resistance to what was naturally unfolding, I had a moment of surrender. I decided to surrender to the moment, instead of resisting it.
I stopped, sat and took a breath. Maybe what looked like pain was actually opportunity. Just because I wasn’t seeing it, didn’t mean that this wasn’t a better unfolding that the one I’d been expecting.
I asked myself the question ‘What is the new opportunity here?’
Then I sat and waited for an inspired answer to pop into my head. It didn’t take long!
Suddenly, I was back in the flow.
I called my wife back, who was still in the car driving home from the airport.
‘Hey, Ange – would you like to have breakfast together? My plane is delayed and I have a 2 hour window’ I said.
It turns out that my wife and I don’t often have the time to have breakfast together. This was a golden opportunity! She turned around and headed back in my direction.
At the same time, I texted the three people in Salt Lake to let them know that the flight would be late. Almost immediately two of them replied that they had another ride which was even closer to their own arrival time. Excellent! The last one, Joe, texted that his flight was late too and he’d now land within minutes of my own arrival. Nice.
Joe and I have gone on to be friends and emerging business partners. Nicer.
After a lovely breakfast with my wife, I got back to the airport at about 9am. That turned out to be the time that the massage place opened up. You know I got a half hour massage that wasn’t available at 7am. Even nicer again!
Surrender Is Bliss
And there you have it. My initial resistance and disappointment gave way to an amazing morning, a deeper connection with my wife and a lovely massage.
I could’ve stayed in resistance, pain and unhappiness. I could’ve allowed that tone to permeate my entire day.
Instead, I surrender to the flow and come back into alignment. It’s amazing how well it works. Try it out and let me know!